Not counting the brief interruption to regular programming by Hurricane Harvey, our Houston lives are settling into a routine. The kids are back in school, activities are underway, the house is unpacked albeit un-decorated but that will come with time. I am in a new phase of life. Fortunately, I did qualify for Employment Insurance so there is less urgency for me to find a job which is a good thing because I still can’t decide what I want to do when I grow up.
All this leads to completely different wardrobe needs and a new reckoning of my personal style. My blazers sit untouched, even in “Fall” I can hardly imagine wearing pants in the Texas heat, long sleeves make me sweat just looking at them. Every morning and afternoon, I walk my kids to the bus with all the other parents and note the prominent fashion choice of athleisure wear (there’s an oxymoron for you) which is NOT happening. I am out and about each day but not necessarily seen by anyone which has led me to a realization: up until now, my style choices were in good part due to being seen by others. Not that I was looking for approval because I’m over 40 and I beat my own drum… Maybe so that I could share my thrifting scores?? Maybe for the sheer vanity of getting compliments? I don’t think that’s inherently wrong – everyone likes a sincere compliment (preferably not only related to one’s appearance but also to one’s character, but I’ll take either!). In any case, without having my work ladies to “dress for,” I have been feeling adrift. I have encouraged stay-at-home and work-at-home women over the years to embrace their personal style, put some effort into themselves and put on a damn necklace! Now here I am with the shoe on the other foot so to speak and finally understanding the effort that takes. If a
tree falls in the forest mom wears a stained tee and shorts and no makeup, does anyone hear notice? Truthfully, no. No one notices or cares unless you happen to have an attuned husband or teen-aged daughter perhaps, neither of which apply to me. However, I notice and that, after all, is what really matters. There is a little itch that tells me if I’m not dressing for work, it doesn’t count and so I declare here and now: every day counts. Every day is a chance to impress a little bit of YOU on the world and to that end, the effort is entirely worthwhile.
Here is what dressing for me looks like these days:
Comfortable pieces – flats, looser dresses in a casual fabric, nothing that requires a strapless bra. Yes that means some of my “work clothes” are going unworn and that’s okay. They still spark joy for me just hanging there so there they will stay for the time being.
Shorts – I’ve favoured skirts over shorts in the past but most of my skirts require tops to be tucked in and that just feels constricting so I’ve been reaching for shorts more than ever before.
Interesting pieces – I am still drawn to prints and pieces that offer up something to complement my, er, substantial wardrobe, though, like I said, a fair amount of my wardrobe is out of rotation, indefinitely. That totally justifies me thrifting more, right?
Accessories – I still love necklaces but find I am not wearing them every day. Earrings and an arm party however are my jam. I do wear them every day and feel naked without them. I carry a scarf in my bag to cope with the icy AC but otherwise forgo scarves due to the heat. Too bad because I find they add a finishing touch on many outfits. Maybe sometime in December???
Getting ready – I am a make-up girl so I still wear makeup every day though I made the necessary switch to waterproof mascara (and am seeking the best – any recommendations?). Hair is another story. I cannot bring myself to blow-dry, straighten or curl my hair. Any given day has a 90% chance of pool and/or sweat-dripping humidity so hair styling efforts are literally washed away.
Given this new direction for my personal style, I am just not driven towards blog posts showcasing my outfits. My friends and family back home enduring the snow might start sending hate mail if I blog too much about my seemingly endless summer style! Sooooo, I’m still posting details of my outfits on Instagram and enjoying IG Story to share my random musings. And I still plan to blog my thrifting adventures and any other style (or other) idea that interests me and I hope that is compelling enough for y’all to follow along. Otherwise, I am open to suggestion so if you have something you would like to see or a topic you’d like me to explore, please comment or email me! It is truly inspiring to hear from you and comments make my day!